Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

 

Why this topic?

It is the rarest thing to be in safety and open up to others about personal aspects of our lives. For women, our bodies represent all the stages of our lives; menstruation, becoming sexual beings, childbirth, abortion, no bearing of children, aging into menopause and beyond. Our orgasms, or lack of them, have been given little support or understanding. Many other things can come up for women as we share. Now is our opportunity for being truly seen and heard.


Why nudity?

The heart of the workshop is vulnerability. We want to become more transparent to ourselves and to each other so that we might uncover things that are keeping us from experiencing pleasure and accepting ourselves as we are. Clothes project an image of who we are and in Bodysex we want to be as close to our authentic selves as we can be so that the healing processes can happen. This will also help to heal negative body image. Time with others in this state will help us develop a deeper level of comfort within our bodies.


Why look so intimately at ourselves and one another’s genitals?

The purpose is to familiarize ourselves with our genitals so we can better understand their function and how they look. It is uncommon for many women to have looked at their own vulvas . And it is even more uncommon to have shown our vulva to other women. Knowing sexual parts is all-important to enhance our orgasmic and pleasure potential. Seeing other women’s genitals helps us to appreciate the samenesses and the differences. Enough can’t be said about the power of other women admiring this most sacred part of our body. It has the power to heal shame, celebrate beauty, and really connect us to our sexual selves like nothing else can.


Why include masturbation in the workshop?

Many of us can be stuck in our known masturbation practices and this is a way for you to rethink your practice. A demonstration is done for tips and pointers. We are here to fully learn about our sexuality within our bodies. Masturbation is the foundation of our learning. Doing it together becomes a celebration and and a new kind of foundation. We find in breaking this cultural taboo, it becomes natural and a fun learning experience. The best way to learn is by having fun.

The experience of witnessing other’s self generated sexual pleasure and having our’s witnessed is both powerful and vulnerable. There is no right or wrong way to do this. The point is to enjoy yourself as much as possible in the presence of other women. Orgasm is not the goal. If you have an orgasm or two or three, that is great and if you don’t that is great too.


Why full body massage? What if I don’t like certain parts of my body touched?

Declaring what may be uncomfortable for you is all important so yes, you are encouraged to speak up for what area of your body is off limits. This might change as you get into the massage . You might want that area touched as you become more comfortable so speak up if that happens. Also you may want more attention to some particular area or areas. Please speak your yes and no. This is for you so your full enjoyment of it is key and the goal.


What if I have my period?

No problem. Someone almost always has their period. You can use a tampon, menstrual cup, or a piece of natural sea sponge during genital show & tell and erotic recess.


What if I have a yeast infection?

No problem. Simply do what you normally do to treat a yeast infection (whether that is probiotics + dietary adjustments, or a Monistat egg) and then head on over.


What if I can't orgasm?

If you orgasm, great. If you don't, that's ok too. Orgasm is NOT the goal. We're here to heal body shame, overcome sexual guilt and experience true sisterhood. There's no agenda and no expectations.


Can I keep the barbell?

If you want to keep the barbell you used during the workshop, you can and the price is $130. You may also purchase it online.


Can I bring my own barbell and wand?

Yes. If you've already purchased the barbell and the wand, you can bring them with you to the workshop.


Can I bring something to eat?

Of course.  Water, fruit and cookies (including gluten-free) will be provided.


If you have any other questions, you can email me directly: bodysexnc@gmail.com